Chaplain Carol

Rev. Carol Squglio, Chaplain

We are gathered here today to celebrate one of life's greatest moments, to give recognition to the worth and beauty of love, and to add our best wishes to the words which shall unite                     (Bride) and (Groom) in marriage. It is fitting that you, the families and friends of (Bride) and (Groom) be here to witness & share as they become one. 

Who presents (Bride) to this (Groom)?  Or-- Who presents this woman to this man? 

(Bride) and (Groom) , I would ask that you both remember to treat yourself and each other with respect, and remind yourself often of what brought you together today. Give the highest               priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your marriage deserves. When frustration and difficulty assail your marriage, as they do to every relationship at one time or another,           focus on what still seems right between you, not only the part that seems wrong. This way, when clouds of trouble hide the sun in your lives and you lose sight of it for a moment, you can           remember that the sun is still there. And if each of you will take responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and delight.

Marriage is a commitment to life, the best that two people can find and bring out in each other. It offers opportunities for sharing and growth that no other relationship can equal. It is a          physical and an emotional joining that is promised for a lifetime.


Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life's most important relationships. A wife and a husband are each others best friend, confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic.              And there may come times when one partner is heartbroken or ailing, and the love of the other may resemble the tender caring of a parent for a child.

Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller, memories are fresher, commitment is stronger, even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly.
Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing a love that is deeper than life.

When two people pledge their love and care for each other in marriage, they create a spirit unique unto themselves, which binds them closer than any spoken or written words.                          Marriage is a promise, a potential made in the hearts of two people who love each other and takes a lifetime to fulfill.

Love is a quality of spirit, and an attitude of the emotions, but marriage is a life’s work, a spiritual art form. Therefore, this is an occasion of both profound joy and great responsibility and we,          who partake in it, bind ourselves as witness to the labor of love that Bride and Groom are undertaking here. In acknowledgment of the holy purpose and the power of this occasion, let us pray:

Bless this marriage, O God, as (Bride) and (Groom) begin their journey down the road of life together. We don't know what lies ahead for the road turns and bends. But help them to make the          best of whatever comes their way.

Help them to hug each other often, talk and laugh a lot.

Help them to continue to enjoy each other as they did when they first met.

Help them to realize that nothing or no one is perfect and to look for the good in all things and all people including themselves.

Help them to respect each others likes and dislikes, opinion and beliefs, hopes and dreams and fears.

Help them to learn from each other and to help each other to grow mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

Help them to realize that there is design and purpose in their lives as in the world, and if they will hold onto each other, they will know that things have a way of working out for the good.

Help them to create for their children a peaceful, stable home of love as a foundation on which they can build their lives.

But most of all, dear God, help them to keep lit the torch of love that they now share in their hearts, so that by their loving example, they may pass on the light of love to their children                          and to their children's children forever. Amen

I (Groom), take you (Bride), to be my wife, I promise to stand by your side, to always share and support your hopes, dreams and goals. I vow to be there for you always. When you fall, I will        catch you. When you cry, I will comfort you. When you laugh, I will share your joy. From this moment forth I vow to live, laugh and love with you for all my days.

I (Bride), take you (Groom), to be my husband, I promise to stand by your side, to always share and support your hopes, dreams and goals. I vow to be there for you always. When you fall,                   I will catch you. When you cry, I will comfort you. When you laugh, I will share your joy. From this moment forth I vow to live, laugh and love with you for all my days.

May I have the rings?

Lets us pray: Father, bless these rings as they are given and received as a token of (Bride) and (Groom) affection, sincerity and fidelity to one another. Amen.

(Groom), do you take (Bride) to be your wife, to have and to hold, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, and to love and cherish, from this day forward?

(Bride), do you take (Groom) to be your husband, to have and to hold, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, and to love and cherish, from this day forward?

(Bride) and (Groom) , as the two of you come into this marriage uniting you as husband and wife, and as you this day affirm your faith and love for one another, I would ask that you always      remember to cherish each other as special and unique individuals, that you respect the thoughts, ideas and suggestions of one another. Be able to forgive, do not hold grudges, and live each day   that you may share it together - as from this day forward you shall be each others home, comfort and refuge, your marriage strengthened by your love and respect for each other. Hold true               to the journey you both have pledged today.

Can be inserted if there are children.... 

We are all members of one family, God’s family. Today as (Bride) and (Groom) have sealed their commitment to each other with the exchange of rings they too make a commitment                                 to their child. We recognize the significant role that (Child) plays in this marriage celebrated today. He will now join (Bride) and (Groom) in this commitment to each other by contributing a              part of each individual person into one blended family. Today, this relationship is symbolized through the pouring of these 3 individual glass containers of sand, each representing a member             of the family in all that they were, all that that are, and all that they will ever be. As each individual’s sand is poured into the family’s one united common container, the individual containers             of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one.

Please pour the sand into this common container to symbolize the blending of your lives.

Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will become the bond with your family.

(Best man & Maid of Honor) We have heard (Bride) and (Groom) pledge themselves to God and each other in marriage. Before God, this community of family and friends, we witness                          that (Bride) and (Groom) are husband and wife.

(Bride) and (Groom) , in so much as the two of you have agreed to live together in matrimony, have promised your love for each other by these vows, the joining of your hands and                                 the giving of these rings… By the power given to me by the church and the State of (________), I now pronounce you husband and wife.

Congratulations, you may kiss your bride!!!

With great honor & joy, I present to you for the very first time, Mr. & Mrs.!!!!

 

Another Promise

You may wish to add another vow to your covenant, one to say together. This vow is a pledge to establish a Christian home.
                    For example:

We have received our love from each other as a gift from you, our God. We want you to be at the center of our marriage and our home. We want our home to be a vortex of love not only for ourselves, but also for others.   We want our home to be a place where your love is shared. We pledge ourselves to making Christ the Head of our homes.

B ________ and G________, you have recognized that your love for each other is a gift from God. Will you now ask God to be at the center of your marriage and your home? Will you pledge that you will try                    to make your home a vortex of love not only for yourselves but also for others; a place where Christian love is shared? Will you pledge yourselves to making Christ the Head of your home?
                Answer: "We do" or "We so promise."

 

Mention of Mother's and Father's ,

Mr. And Ms. have loved and cared for their daughter in a multitude of ways. Likewise, Mr. and Mrs. have loved and cared for their son. We all here express gratitude for the inspiration of your love, that has enabled you to bring forth your children for us all to know and enjoy. As you have held them close, fitting them for maturity, will you now willingly and freely release them to love and care for each other?         And will you support and encourage their life together that it, too, may be a blessing for generations to come?

Bride and Groom Mothers will now light the outside tapers of their Unity Candle. These tapers signify their child’s single and separate lives. (Please be seated)

Bride and Groom , Mr. and Mrs., Mr. and Mrs., beloved friends:

We are gathered here in the presence of God and of this company to join in holy marriage Bride and Groom and to bear witness to the transforming power of love.

Love is a quality of spirit and an attitude of the emotions, but marriage is a life’s work, a spiritual art form! Therefore, this is an occasion of both profound joy and great responsibility, and we who partake in it, bind ourselves as witnesses to the labor of love that Bride and Groom are undertaking here. In acknowledgment of this holy purpose and the power of this occasion, let us pray:

Eternal God, creator and preserver of all life, author of salvation, giver of all grace; Bless and sanctify with your Holy Spirit Bride and Groom , who come now to join in marriage. Grant that they may give their vows to each other in the strength of your steadfast love. Enable them to grow in love and peace with you and with one another all their days, that may reach out in concern and service to the world through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

1st Corinthians 13

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

I have a question for you Groom.

Do you, Groom, choose to marry Bride, to speak the words that will bind you to her, as her husband in the presence of God and these witnesses?

And now…….Do you, Bride, choose to marry Groom, to speak the words that will bind you to him, as his wife in the presence of God and these witnesses?

(Will you please turn and face each other, holding hands)

Groom, please repeat after me:

I _________, take you __________, to be my wife, I promise to stand by your side, to unfailingly share and support your hopes, dreams and goals. I vow to be there for you always. When you fall,                                I will catch you. When you cry, I will comfort you. When you laugh, I will share your joy. Everything I am and everything I have is yours, from this moment forth and for eternity.

I __________, take you __________, to be my husband, I promise to stand by your side, to unfailingly share and support your hopes, dreams and goals. I vow to be there for you always. When you fall,                      I will catch you. When you cry, I will comfort you. When you laugh, I will share your joy. Everything I am and everything I have is yours, from this moment forth and for eternity.

"Father, bless these rings which ______ and ______ have set apart to be visible signs of the inward and spiritual bond which unites their hearts. As they give and receive these rings, may they testify to                the world of the covenant made between them here." Amen

________, I ask you to receive this ring as a symbol of my love and as a constant reminder that I have chosen you above all others to be the one to share my life.

________, I ask you to receive this ring as a symbol of my love and as a constant reminder that I have chosen you above all others to be the one to share my life.

As we look at the Unity Candle, the two outside candles have been lit to represent both your lives in this moment. They are two distinct lights, each capable of going their separate ways. To bring bliss and happiness to your home, there must be the merging of these two lights into one light. This is what the Lord meant when He said, "On this account a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall be one flesh." From now on your thoughts shall be for each other rather than your individual selves. Your plans shall be mutual, your joys and sorrows shall be shared alike. As you each take a candle and together light the center one, you will extinguish your own candles, thus letting the center candle represent the union of your lives into one flesh. As this one light cannot be divided, neither shall your lives be divided but a united testimony in a Christian home. May the radiance of this one light be a testimony of your unity in the Lord Jesus Christ.

Let us pray as our Father has taught us:

Our Father which art in Heaven, Hallowed be thy name,Thy kingdom come,Thy will be done on earth,As it is in heaven.Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our trespasses, As we forgive those         who trespass against us.Lead us not into temptation But deliver us from evil. For thine is the kingdom, the power and the glory, Forever and ever.

Amen.

Inasmuch as you ____, and you _____, have consented together in holy marriage, and have witnessed the same before God and this company by pledging your love and faithfulness to each other, and                  have declared the same by the joining of hands and by the giving and receiving of rings now, therefore, by the authority vested in me as a minister, I pronounce you husband and wife in the name of the           Father and of the Son and of the Holy spirit. Those whom God has joined together let no man put asunder.

I have the great honor of introducing for the first time:

Mr. and Mrs.!

 

 

 

__________ and _________ ,


As you join together in vows of marriage, you celebrate one of life's greatest moments and give recognition to the worth and beauty of love.

 

Let us pray:


God of love, bless the marriage of Bride and Groom . Surround their relationship and their home with an ever-growing love. May they always be aware of Your presence and Your care in their lives. And now, Bride and Groom , may the grace of Christ attend you, the love of God surround you, and the Holy Spirit keep you. Amen.

Groom, Do you take Bride to be your Wife? Do you promise to love, honor, cherish and protect her, forsaking all others and hold only to her? (I DO)

Bride, Do you take Groom to be your Husband? Do you promise to love, honor, cherish and protect him, forsaking all others and hold only to him? (I DO)

Will you please turn, face each other, and hold hands.

"Father, bless these rings which Bride and Groom have set apart to be visible signs of the inward and spiritual bond which unites their hearts. As they give and receive these rings, may they testify to the world of the                     covenant made between them here." Amen

Groom, will you please repeat after me, and then place Bride’s ring on her finger:

I, Groom, take you, Bride to be my Wife. To have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, I promise all my love to you.
With this ring, I thee Wed.


Bride, will you please repeat after me, and then place Groom’s ring on his finger:

I, Bride, take you, Groom, to be my Husband. To have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, I promise all my love to you.
With this ring, I thee Wed.

"Your gift to each other for your wedding today has been your wedding rings - which shall always be an outward demonstration of your vows of love and respect; and a public showing of your commitment to each other.

You now have what remains the most honorable title, which may exist between a man and a woman - the title of "husband" and "wife." For your first gift as husband and wife, that gift will be a single rose.

In the past, the rose was considered a symbol of love and a single rose always meant only one thing - it meant the words "I love you." So it is appropriate that for your first gift - as husband and wife - that gift would be a single rose.

Please exchange your first gift as husband and wife.

In some ways it seems like you have not done anything at all. Just a moment ago you were holding one small rose - and now you are still holding one small rose. In some ways, a marriage ceremony is like this. In some ways, tomorrow is going to seem no different than yesterday. But in fact today, just now, you both have given and received one of the most valuable and precious gifts of life - one I hope you always remember - the gift of true and abiding love within the devotion of marriage.

Bride and Groom , I would ask that where ever you make your home in the future - whether it be a large and elegant home - or a small and graceful one - that you both pick one very special location for roses; so that on each anniversary of this truly wonderful occasion you both may take a rose to that spot both as a re-commitment to your marriage - and a re-commitment that THIS will be a marriage based upon love

 

(The following can either be included or left out)

In every marriage there are times where it is difficult to find the right words.

It is easiest to hurt who we most love. It is easiest to be most hurt by who we most love. It might be difficult some time to words to say "I am sorry" or "I forgive you"; "I need you" or "I am hurting". If this should happen, if you simply can not find these words, leave a rose at that spot which both of you have selected - for that rose than says what matters most of all and should overpower all other things and all other words. That rose says the words: "I still love you."

The other should accept this rose for the words which cannot be found, and remember the love and hope that you both share today.

Bride and Groom , if there is anything you remember of this marriage ceremony, it is that it was love that brought you here today, it is only love which can make it a glorious union, and it is by love which your marriage shall endure."

"Treat yourselves and each other with respect and remind yourselves often of what brought you together. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness, and kindness that your love deserves. Be open, sharing your joys, sorrows and concerns. Sharing your burdens will lighten them and sharing your joys will multiply them."

Bride and Groom , in so much as the two of you have agreed to live together in Matrimony, promised your love for each other by these vows, and the giving of rings, I now declare you to be Husband and Wife.

 

More vows-- 

We are gathered here today to celebrate one of life's greatest moments, to give recognition to the worth and beauty of love, and to add our best wishes to the words which shall unite Bride and Groom in marriage.

Bride and Groom , I would ask that you both remember to treat yourself and each other with respect, and remind yourself often of what brought you together today. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your marriage deserves. When frustration and difficulty assail your marriage, as they do to every relationship at one time or another, focus on what still seems right between you, not only the part that seems wrong. This way, when clouds of trouble hide the sun in your lives and you lose sight of it for a moment, you can remember that the sun is still there. And if each of you will take responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and delight.

We want to remind you of the seriousness of the commitment you are about to make to each other. To pledge your life to another person in a lifelong relationship is an awesome, and yet beautiful, act. We want to hear from you your readiness to pledge your vows to each other, and so we ask...

Groom, do you take Bride to he your wife? Do you promise to love, honor, cherish and protect her, forsaking all others and holding only unto her for as long as you both shall live?

I do


Bride, do you take Groom to he your husband? Do you promise to love, honor, cherish and protect her, forsaking all others and holding only unto her for as long as you both shall live?
I d0

(Bride, may I have your flowers? Flowers are placed on table.)

Bride and Groom , will you please turn and face each other and hold hands.

As you listen to the words of your wedding vows, which you have carefully chosen, allow them to be written upon your heart:

Together, we can accomplish anything. Together, we will be better than we could be alone. Together, we will share our love with the world. Together, our love will grow into a bond too strong to break. Our love may be like the ebb and tide of the ocean, but it will always flow. Through the good and bad, I want you to always know that I will be by your side. I will be there for you in the ups and downs of life. This is my promise to you (respond together)

In sickness, I will nurse you back to health. In health, I will encourage you on your path. In sadness, I will help you to remember. In happiness, I will be there make to memories with you. In poverty, I will do all that I can to make our love rich. And in wealth, I will never let our love grow poor. This is my promise to you (respond together)

When you need someone to encourage you, I want it to be me. When you need a helping hand, I want it to be mine. When you long for someone to smile at, turn to me. When you have something to share, share it with me as I will share with you. This is my promise to you (respond together)

Though life may not always be as perfect as it is at this moment, I vow to always keep my love as pure as it is today. I promise to be there for you in your laughter and your tears, in your sickness and your health, in your comfort and your fears, in your poverty and your wealth. I know that our love is heaven sent, and I promise to be there for you for all your life, come what may. This is my promise to you (respond together)

We have already been through a lot together, and I believe that God has been preparing us for this moment and for our future together. I promise to keep the good memories alive, and to let the bad ones die. I vow not to let the sun go down on our anger, and to treat each morning as a new day to love you, the gift I have been given. I will not forsake you or these vows that we have made, but rather strive to show you my love for the rest of our lives. This is my promise to you. (respond together)

May I have the rings?

Father, bless these rings which Bride and Groom have set apart to be visible signs of the inward and spiritual bond which unites their hearts. As they give and receive these rings, may they testify to the world of the covenant made between them here.

Groom, will you please repeat after me:

I, Groom, take you, Bride, to be my friend, my lover, the mother of my children and my wife. I will be yours in times of plenty and in times of want, in times of sickness and in times of health, in times of joy and in times of sorrow, in times of failure and in times of triumph. I promise to cherish and respect you, to care and protect you, to comfort and encourage you, and stay with you, for all eternity. With this ring, I thee wed.

Bride, will you please repeat after me:


I, Bride, take you, Groom, to be my friend, my lover, the father of my children and my husband. I will be yours in times of plenty and in times of want, in times of sickness and in times of health, in times of joy and in times of sorrow, in times of failure and in times of triumph. I promise to cherish and respect you, to care and protect you, to comfort and encourage you, and stay with you, for all eternity.
With this ring, I thee wed.

Now then, let no man or woman put asunder what God and the Department of the Navy have brought together. The Navy hereby issues you this lovely, dedicated, independent woman, knowing that she'll be an asset not only to your marriage, but also to the mission of the United States Navy, which is, as you all know, to remain in a high state of Readiness. By the authority vested in the Bible, elaborated in the regulation and subject to current directives concerning the aspects of marriage in the Navy, you are now a Sailor with a Dependent. Best Wishes and good Luck. :o)

Bride and Groom , in so much as the two of you have agreed to live together in matrimony, have promised your love for each other by these vows, the joining of your hands and the giving of these rings. Buy the power given to me by God, I now declare you to be Husband and Wife.