Chaplain Carol

Rev. Carol Squglio, Chaplain

We are gathered here in the presence of God and these witnesses to celebrate the joining of this man and this woman in the unity of marriage.  There are no obligations on earth more sweet or tender than those you are about to assume.  There are no vows more solemn than those you are about to make.  There is no human institution more sacred than that of the home you are about to form.  True marriage is the holiest of all earthly relationships.  It should be entered into reverently, thoughtfully, and with full understanding of its sacred nature.  Marriage to be complete must first be spiritual.  From this inner state of conscious unity in Faith, Love, Thougt, Purpose, Plan and Action, there comes the outer state corresponding to it, making the outer, like the inner, peaceful and harmonious.  The state of matrimony is true marriage only when based on htis deep, invisible union of two souls who seek to find completion in one another.  Do you understand this?  We do.

(optional: Who gives this bride?)

Today your separate lives with their individual memories, desires and hopes merge into one.  Will you bring to this new life each for the sake of the other, the best that you have in you, seeking to express your life together, each at the highest level of your own understanding?  We do.

Will you please face each other and join hands. 

Groom, will you take this woman whose hands you hold, choosing her alone to be your wedded wife?  Will you live with her in the state of true matrimony?  Will you love her, comfort her, honor her at all times and be faithful to her?

Bride, will you take this man whose hands you hold, choosing him alone to be your wedded husband?  Will you live with him in the state of true matrimony?  Will you love him, comfort him, honor him at all times and be faithful to him?

As you take these preliminary vows, Groom and Bride, I would have you remember to love is to enter a whole new world, a world of togetherness, a world of sharing. all that is dearest and deepest within your hearts.

To love is to remember and keep alive forever all those unique qualities that drew you to one aonther in the beginning...That first halting phrase.. the thrill of discovery...that wonderful feeling of oneness when your eyes met.

To love is to constantly search for new ways to bring each other to happiness, to make the most of every moment you share together and marvel at how your feelings for one another keep rising to new dimensions.

To love is to create an oasis of trnquility for one another and a quiet place apart from others where you need not pretend, where you can be yourselves, and know ithin your hearts, you will be accepted by one another.  To love is to greet each day with anticipation, always eager for another opportunity to share new adventures and gather up new memories together.

To love is to follow the rainbow through the rain, to be able to laugh at yourselves and be willing to say "I was wrong, I'm sorry".  To forgive and more importantly, to forget and to always believe and trust in one another.

To love is to watch with wonder all the miracles of creation to find beauty in all the simple things of life and to find within ourselves a deeper appreciation and a new awareness of how wonderful it is to be alive, to be happy, to be together.

To love is to come together from the athways of our past and then move forward, hand in hand along the uncharted roads of our future, ready to risk, to dream and to dare and always believe that all things are possible with faith and love.

Will you repeat after me:

I, ______, take you ______ to be my wife.  To love and cherish from this day forward and thereto pledge you my faith.

I, ______, take you ______ to be my husand.  To love and to cherish from this day forward and thereto pledge you my faith.

I understand you have brought rings as a token of your sincerity?

Blessing of the rings---Let us pray:(this prayer can be two separate prayers for each, bride and groom)

Bless these ring/rings Lord, that the one who gives it and the one who wears it may ever abide in thy peace, living together in unity, in love and in happiness and with good purpose , do thy will.  Amen.

This ring is a symbol of the unbroken unity of truth now to be symbolized in your married life.

______, will you repeat after me as you place the ring on _____ finger:

With this ring I thee wed.  Let it ever be to us a symbol of our love.

______, will you repeat after me as you place the ring on _____ finger:

With this ring I thee wed.  Let it ever be to us a symbol of our love.

I would like to share these closing thoughts:

That you love each other with an encompassing spectrum of love, that there be expressions of love in words and actions as well as in comforting silence, that there be interest in nurturing concern for each others happiness and well being, that your love be broad enough to accept the family and friends o f each other and that ehy accet your love, that you be nindful of each others needs with honest effort of fulfillment, to talk when the other needs to hear to listen when the other needs to be heard, to touch when the other needs touching, to hold when the other needs to be held.  To understand solitude when the other needs to be alone, and that you may make living space for each others humanness with both its strengths and frailties, that ou have tenderness in your strength and yet find strength in tenderness itself, that you open yourselves to that Divine love which has woven the tapestry of your union and that you honor the Infinite Weaver with faith, hope and love.  These three, knowing that the greatest of these is love.  Will you accept this challenge?

Spiritual prayer can be inserted here:

Let us all join together in prayer, Eternal Spirit, life, truth and substance of all, with whom to be in conscious union is joy and from whom to feel separated is darkness.  Heavenly Father, may this man and this woman who have entered into this spiritual union, always be conscious of Thy indwelling presence. May they be one with each other as they are even now with thee. May the rejoice in perect love and peac together and live always in accord with the true law of their Divine Being.  Amen

Optional Apache Blessing:

Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be shelter to the other.  Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other.  Now there is no loneliness for you now you are two persons, but there is only one life before you.  Go now to your dwelling place, to enter into the days of your togethernes and may your days be good and long together.  Amen.

In as much as you, _____ and _____ have consented together in the unio of matrimony and you have pledged your faith each to the other in the presence of God and this copany, now by the authority vestd in me as a minister, I now pronounce you Husband and Wife!

Please kiss your wife.

Ladies and gentlemen, may I now present to you Mr. and Mrs. __________.