Chaplain Carol

Rev. Carol Squglio, Chaplain

     Below is the Rose Ceremony.  You can use any of the verbiage below to make it special.  There are so many ideas; so many different elements that can be added in, what are your ideas?

 

 

                                                                                             

                                                                                                                                                                                        

                                                                                                                                                                                                   Rose Ceremony

 

The Gift

Your gift to each other today has been your wedding rings (this can be eliminated if you choose to place this before you exchange rings) - which shall always be an outward demonstration of your vows of love and respect; and a public showing of your commitment to each other.

As husband and wife, your first gift to each other will be a single rose.

In the past, the rose was considered a symbol of love, and a single rose always meant one thing..."I love you." So it is fitting that for your first gift - as husband and wife - it would be a single rose.

Please exchange your first gift as husband and wife.
(Bride and Groom pass a single rose to each other)

Groom and Bride I would ask that where ever you make your home in the future that you both pick one very special location for roses; so that on each anniversary of this truly wonderful occasion you both may take a rose to that spot both as a recommitment to your marriage - and a re-commitment that THIS will be a marriage based upon love.

THIS CAN BE ADDED:

In every marriage there are times where it is difficult to find the right words.
It can be difficult some time to say the words "I am sorry" or "I forgive you"; "I need you" or "I am hurting". If this should happen, if you simply can not find these words, leave a rose at that spot which both of you have selected.  For that rose then says what matters most of all and should overpower all other things and all other words.

That rose says the words: "I still love you."
The other should accept this rose for the words, which cannot be found and remember the love and hope that you both share today.

Groom and Bride if there is anything you remember of today, it is that it was love that brought you here today, it is only love which can make it a glorious union, and it is by love which your marriage shall endure."
 
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Rose vow

NOTE: The Groom will need to have a rose and the Bride will need a vase with water in it. Before the ceremony, the vase and rose should be placed in an easily accessible spot generally behind a lectern, for example. The best man, the Maid of Honor, or the Minister should get the rose and the vase just prior to this part of the service.

Minister: This is a day steeped in tradition, a time when we are surrounded by symbols: something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue. Today, (Bride's Name) and (Groom's Name) begin a new tradition, a custom which now becomes uniquely their own.

Groom: (Bride Name) I give you this rose. Because it grew from a tiny seed, becoming stronger and larger until it burst into flower, it symbolizes the way my love for you has grown. (Groom gives Bride the rose.) Each year on our wedding anniversary, I will give you another rose. In so doing, I'll remember this day and renew the vows we've made.

Bride: (Groom's name), I give to you this vase of water. (Groom takes and holds it.) Because water is the one element without which we would perish, it symbolizes the importance of your love in my life. Each year on our anniversary, I will refill this vase, offering it to you as a symbol of my ever renewing love. (Bride puts the rose in the vase and they hold the vase together.)

Groom: Without water, the rose would die.

Bride: Without the rose, the vase of water would not be beautiful.

Groom: My gift is enhanced by yours, just as my life is enhanced by ours.

Bride: My gift is lovely because of yours, just as my life is better because of you. ( They hand the rose and vase to the Minister.)

Minister: On each anniversary, as you give and receive the rose and the water, remember with joy this day when you pledged your love and your lives to each other. May this be only the first of many cherished traditions in a home filled with happiness.

"From This Moment"
From this moment, I, (Name), take you, (Name), as my best friend for life. I pledge to honor, encourage, and support you through our walk together. When our way becomes difficult, I promise to stand by you and uplift you, so that through our union we can accomplish more than we could alone. I promise to work at our love and always make you a priority in my life. With every beat of my heart, I will love you. This is my solemn vow.

OR

This would be a unique opportunity to have someone close to you read the following:

 

"1 Corinthians 13"
I, ______, take you, ______, as the love of my life. I vow to be patient with you and the circumstances in our lives. I vow to be kind to all people we come across. I vow not to be boastful of our love or about our accomplishments. I promise to be proud of you, but not proud in love for though I will strive for perfection, I know I can never reach it. I promise not to be quick to anger, but to think before I speak and act. I vow not to keep a record of wrongs, but to always keep the happy memories alive. Through God, our love will never fail.

OR

This could be a reading included for you to read, each to the other:

 

"Could Not Ask for More"
I, ______, choose you, ______, as my everything. I vow to love you through sickness and health, through the good and the bad, through richer and poorer. You are everything I need, and at this moment I know that all my prayers have been answered and that all of my dreams have come true. This is the moment I have waited my whole life for. I promise to give you my all and I know that I could not ask for more from you. I love you and always will. This is my solemn vow.

 

                                                                                                                        The Journey with a Gift

Like a journey along a road, marriage has its ups and downs, its rough thorny parts and its smooth parts.

These roses have a similar message.  As you examine the branch, it can be seen that one part is smooth and shiny and that at irregular intervals a spike or a bump appears.  As we travel along the smooth surface and circumnavigate the bumps, we arrive at the beautiful petals of the rose which reminds us all, of the beauty and the elegance of life.  As a token of your journey and to fully experience the excitement and the spirit of giving each other a rose, I now offer you this opportunity.  (Grooms name) and (Brides name), I offer you each a rose as a symbol of the journey you begin today.

(Minister hands each a rose)

Give each other a rose at very regular intervals in your future life, so as to remind each other that the journey is truly worth it.  At the end, the glory, the beauty and the elegance is well worth the bumps and spikes along the way.

OR

A Gift

Officiant holds a vase with two red roses or they can be placed on a table close at hand (along with a card with the verbiage you will need to say to each other)...

Officiant: In the elegant language of flowers, red roses are a symbol of love.  The giving of a single red rose is a clear and unmistakable way of saying the words "I love you."  For this reason it is fitting that the first gift you exchange as husband and wife, be the gift of a single red rose.

Groom takes one of the roses and presents it to the Bride saying.....

(Bride's name), take this rose as a symbol of my love.  It began as  a tiny bud and blossomed, just as my love has blossomed and grown for you.

Bride takes the other rose and presents it to the Groom saying.......

(Groom's name), take this rose as a symbol of my love.  Once closed so tightly, it opened to the warmth of the sun, just as my heart has opened to the warmth of your kindness.

Officiant: (Groom's name) and (Bride's name), in remembrance of this day, I would ask as a reaffirmation of your love and of the vows you have spoken here today, that you give each other a single red rose each year on your anniversary.

(Groom) and (Bride) I would ask that where ever you make your home in the future, that you both pick one very special location for roses; so that on each anniversary of this truly wonderful occasion you both may take a rose to that spot both as a re-commitment to your marriage - and a re-commitment that THIS will be a marriage based upon love.

This can be included:

In every marriage there are times when it is difficult to find the right words and the ones we love the most are the ones we can most easily hurt.  There are times when it may be difficult to say "I"m sorry" or I forgive you" or I need you" or "I'm hurting."  So I would also ask that wherever you make your home, that you choose a special spot.  And a those times when words fail, that you leave a red rose at that spot you have both selected--a rose that will say what matters more than all other words-------"I still love you."