Chaplain Carol

Rev. Carol Squglio, Chaplain

 

Vow Renewal

We have gathered today in the love of friendship and family to celebrate a renewal of marriage vows between (husband’s name) and (wife’s name). As their family and close friends, each of you has played a role in bringing them to this day, and in various ways will continue to support and contribute to their marriage. We solemnize this significant event in their lives and enter into this ceremony in an attitude of respect for their steadfast and ongoing commitment to each other.

(Wife’s name) and (husband’s name), although I am officiating here today, it is not truly in my power to sanctify or bless your relationship in any way, because the two of you have already done that in your hearts. Today you proclaim your love anew to the world, and we rejoice with and for you.

In marriage, we give ourselves freely and generously into the hands of the one we love, and by doing so; we receive the love and trust of the other as our most precious gift.

Today you re-commit yourselves to honoring and protecting one another above your separate selves, and to valuing your union above your own interests. In doing this, you secure for yourselves a wealth of love and peace.

But as you know so well, with this joy comes also the profound responsibility to protect the bond you share. For it is only with continual care that your love is truly secure in the face of life's inevitable tests.

Regard each other always with the same deep respect that has kept you through the years, and be ever mindful of the many gifts the other offers you.

Inspire and encourage one another. For it is by strengthening your spouse, that you have strengthened your marriage. Bring out the very best in each other. Be sparing in criticism, and generous in praise for things well done.

In communication, continue to be honest and open with each other, knowing that the heart that communicates truth without hesitation earns trust and builds a secure home.

And as always, accept your marriage as a work-in-progress that consumes your attention day by day and yet is never completed. Because a lifelong love, requires a lifetime of hard work. But it is a joyous labor, whose fruits are the very richest.

Your future stretches out before you, vast and unknown. That future, with its hopes and disappointments, its joys and its sorrows, is hidden from your eyes. But it is a great tribute to your belief in each other that you remain nonetheless willing to face those uncertainties together. May the pure, simple love with which you join your hearts and hands again here today never fail, but grow deeper and surer with every passing year.

(Husband’s name) would you take (wife’s name)'s hand and make your vows to her...

(Wife’s name), I believe in this marriage more strongly then ever.
· Today, I renew the promises I made to you?? years ago,
· A promise of my hand and my heart,
· A promise to you of my love and devotion,
· A promise to provide for and protect you,
· It is with these promises that I recommit my love for you.
· I will continue to love you
· for as long as I shall live

(Wife’s name), would you now make your vows to (husband’s name)...

· (Husband’s name), I believe in this marriage more strongly then ever.
· Today, I renew the promises I made to you?? Years ago,
· A promise of my hand and my heart,
· A promise to you of my love and devotion,
· A promise to provide for and protect you,
· It is with these promises that I recommit my love for you.
· I will continue to love you for as long as I shall live


(Wife’s name) and (husband’s name), we all here today celebrate your love and acknowledge your lifelong devotion to each other. Your example reminds us of love’s possibilities.

So, by joining hands right now and looking into each other’s eyes, let it be known that you are joined, body and soul in this lifetime, and that this bond continues sacred and eternal.

Inasmuch as you have sealed this renewal of your marriage vows in the presence of those gathered here, it gives me much pleasure to pronounce that you are now, even more than ever before, Husband and Wife.

Greeting / Welcoming Words

Blessings and welcome. We are gathered her today in this beautiful place to celebrate the re-uniting of g____ and b___ in the enduring bonds of marriage.

Let this be a day of gladness, thanksgiving, possibility, and good fortune for all of us, but especially for g____  and b____, who are here to renew and celebrate their love. Just as spring blossoms anew after a harsh winter, so must spouses renew their love for each other in their daily lives.

Today marks the _____ anniversary of your marriage and today you renew your vows and love as husband and wife. Today begins the new spring of this year's love. So may it be renewed each day in your hearts.

A Poem by James Dillet Freeman

May your marriage bring you all the exquisite
excitement marriage should bring,
and may life grant you also patience,
tolerance, and understanding.

May you always need one another
not so much to fill your emptiness
as to help you to know your fullness.

A mountain needs a valley to be complete;
the valley does not make
the mountain less, but more;
and the valley is more a valley because
it has a mountain towering over it.

May you need one another, but not out of weakness.
May you want one another, but not out of lack.
May you entice one another, but not compel one another.
May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another.

May you succeed in all important ways with one another,
and not fail in the little graces.
May you look for things to praise, often say, "I love you!"
and take no notice of small faults.

If you have quarrels that push you apart,
may both of you hope to have
good sense enough to take the first step back.

May you enter into the mystery which is
the awareness of one another's
presence—no more physical than spiritual,
warm and near when you are
side by side, and warm and near when
you are in separate rooms
or even distant cities.

May you have happiness,
and may you find it making one another happy.
May you have love, and may you find it loving one another.

Question of Intention

Before we come to the exchange of vows, I will confirm your intent.

g____  and b____, have you come here freely and with the intention of a renewal of your marriage vows? (We have)

Will you continue to love and honor and comfort each other as man and wife every day as you have promised to do? (We will)

The Renewal Wedding Vows

When you first joined hands and hearts (___) years ago, you did not know where life would take you. You promised to love, honor and cherish one another through all things. Life has surely brought you both wonderful blessings and difficult tribulations. Therefore, you have fulfilled your promise.

With this understanding, do you g____ , continue to take b____ as your beloved wife? (I do)

Will you continue to be a tender, faithful husband? Will you continue to love and cherish her, in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, for better for worse, and keep yourself only unto her? (I will)

With this understanding, do you b____, continue to take g____  as your beloved husband? (I do)

Will you continue to be a tender, faithful wife? Will you continue to love and cherish him, in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, for better for worse, and keep yourself only unto him. (I will)

Rededication of Wedding Rings

The wedding ring is the outward and visible sign of an inward and spiritual bond, which unites two loyal hearts in endless love. These circles are designed without an ending, so they speak of eternity. May the incorruptible substance of these rings represent a love glowing with increasing luster through the years and may all good and holy beings upon this Earth bless these rings which you give to each other as the sign of your love, trust, faithfulness, respect and devotion.

g____ , please place the ring on b____s left hand and repeat after me:

With this ring, I continue my promise to you that I will be your faithful partner in life,

b____, please place the ring on g____  left hand and repeat after me:

With this ring, I continue my promise to you that I will be your faithful partner in life,

Benediction

May you always remain sweethearts, helpmates and friends.
May your life together be full of kindness and understanding,
thoughtfulness and rejoicing.
May the years bring you happiness and contentment.
May you enter into each other's sorrow by sympathy,
Into each other's joy with gladness,
Into each other's hope with faith and trust,
Into each other's needs with the sure presence of love,
Into each other's lives with enthusiasm and embracing.

Pronouncement

I now pronounce that you have today reaffirmed your life’s commitment to one another. Go forth in love and friendship for the rest of the days of your lives.

You may seal your vows, and confirm your continued commitment and love for each other, with a kiss.

Ladies and gentlemen, it is my honor to present to you, once again as husband and wife: g____ and b____